Dear 16 year old self....

4. List 10 things you would tell your 16 year-old self, if you could.


This one is actually super hard for me to think back and figure out. I guess I feel like that was an incredibly long time ago (almost 11 years now....weird). So here it goes.
 
1. Your family may be falling apart right now, but I promise things will get better so just hang in there. They may never be the same...but life goes on and they do get better!
 
2. When Tommy asks to hold your hand, dont make fun of him for asking. He's being a gentleman and you're just too caught up in what you think a "real man" should be like you dont even recognize it.
 
3. Dont let Gabe's smooth talking and your need for affection fool you. You dont need him in your life. Just say no. He's not the one. You'll meet the one 8 years later and he's amazing. I know 8 years doesnt sound like fun, but he's worth it.
 
4. Take care of yourself. Dont use food as a crutch because it will haunt you for the rest of your life.
 
5. Its okay that you dont want to go to college. You will have plenty of skills to find work that dont require a degree. And not having a degree does not make you less of an important person.
 
6. I know driving seems scary to you because of the accident last year. But know that not everyone's breaks go out....that was a fluke situation. You can drive, and drive safely. Look that fear in the eye and do it. You'll be glad you did.
 
7. You're going to want an escape from the chaos that is going on in your family life. I know the pain seems unbearable, but dont medicate the feelings. Dont think a pill can make it go away. You'll feel foolish and guilty for thinking so later if you do. Find other outlets of release.
 
8. Get involved in musical theatre now. Though you would eventually find it later in life, why waste 5 years without feelings fulfilled. Its your passion and you just dont realize it. You also will think you cant do it. But you can.
 
9. Help out your mom more. You dont realize how hard it is for her right now. You know its hard, but you have no idea how hard. Hug her more. Help her more. And know that she too will be restored.
 
10. Its okay that your dad is gay. I know that this seems like the most horrible thing that could ever happen. But its okay. Its not something to be ashamed of. Its okay to mourn what you thought your dad was, but embrace who he is. It may not always be easy, but love is love.